I was doing some journaling this morning and it really inspired today’s topic. Honestly, most of my topics are inspired by my journal. I journal a lot about business to process things and figure out which direction I am going next, as well as Think and Grow Chick’s direction and how I can implement the mission I have for my business.

It is important for anybody who’s creating something and putting it out into the world, that every time it reaches a new level to remind yourself the reason why you are doing this. It can be very easy to get sucked into the flow of what everyone else is doing, and the reminders help keep you grounded.

When I first got started with Think and Grow Chick back in 2009, I started it because there were no personal development resources for millennials that targeted African-American women or for women like me in general. At the time, I was reading a lot of Stephen Covey and Brian Tracy because they were the only resources available, then I decided to start blogging about these topics because nobody else was talking about them.

Fast forward to 2017, almost a decade later, and there are tons of personal resources for our set, for women like us, which is really awesome! I totally commend it. But in the sea of everybody doing this kind of work, it’s really important to be present and be like, "Okay, why did I do this again? Who am I really looking for? What is this really about?"

I love the concept of 'That Chick' and I may have mentioned it on previous podcasts. I picked it up way back 2009 or 2010 when I was in my natural hair journey and I was on all of these hair care forums, and beauty forums. There was a really popular one and they talked about hair, beauty, and everything, as well about fashion, relationships, and just random stuff that the women on that thread would talk about.

On this forum a conversation came about of how does a person become 'that girl’. The name of the thread was basically are you 'that girl' and how do you become 'that girl?'  What the original poster was talking about was how she would see women who seem to always be really put together, always well dressed, hair and makeup always done. It's not just for a special occasion, but they seem to be always that way as a lifestyle, even when they're not overly dressed-up, they just always look nice even in their jeans and T-shirt.

She was soliciting responses on how to be ‘that girl’, asking for some tips on how to be always looking your best. This eventually turned into a movement and every year, this website would post the ‘That Girl’ thread where it basically became a challenge. It challenges women to step up their game, to be polished all the time.

I just really became so fascinated by that concept, even as a scruffy college girl, trying to see how I can look more polished on a budget. I was fascinated with this idea of women who want to be excellent, not just dressing up for a special occasion or something like that, but wanting to be excellent, basically, as a lifestyle.

I started to think about this and the concept of 'Think and Grow Chick' more holistically, not just in terms of how you look, but in terms of what the women I'm communicating with are seeking. This became apparent recently, because as you know, I do a lot of consultation calls for people who are interested in working with me for their business.

My enrollment coordinator shared to me her experience when someone reached out, filled out the application, wanting to work with me in a business context. She was handling the call and she was talking to the potential client and basically, she said she wanted to make a million dollars in 30 days. I'm not even joking. I'm exaggerating a little bit. It wasn't a million dollars, but it was a lot.

The client wanted to make significant five figures and wanted to do it in 30 days. My enrollment coordinator was like, "Okay, well where is your business at now? What are your sales right now? What community have you built? Are you at least doing four figures and you wanted to scale it out in 30 days? What are you thinking?"

This person had no business whatsoever, no branding, no email, no nothing. My enrollment coordinator was trying to help and offered her another program that’s starting in 2 months that was going to be a good fit to her. But the person on the other line was super impatient and was like, "No, I can't wait that long. I just want to make a million dollars like, tomorrow."

My coordinator kept pressing that it wasn’t realistic and wanted to dig deeper into her reason for that. It turned out, the person had a situation at work where she was on a leave, and she was going back to work on a certain date. She just wanted to come to me so that I could create magic for her so that she wouldn't have to go back to work.

I was like, "What?"

We were talking about this mindset and, I’m sorry, but this is an example of someone having unrealistic expectations. I was thinking about it, and it’s been great that my community has been growing, but I think it's important to remind people exactly the context of why I do what I do.

'Think and Grow Chick' does not exist to help you make money or to help you quit your job. I'm helping women literally become their most powerful selves and to become a force to be reckoned with in the world. That's essentially what I want. That's what I mean by 'that chick.' I want to create an army of women who are that chick. When they walk into the room heads turn, the atmosphere changes.

There is so much power about, not only her presence, but what she’s able to create where everybody knows that when she's around, stuff is going down, things are happening, because this chick is amazing!

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Notes from the Podcast:

In the podcast, we identify the common characteristics that those power women or role models possess. They all have the same traits and habits that make them stand out from the rest.

Here are 4 characteristics you should possess if you are what I am looking for if you are ‘ That Chick’?

1. 'That Chick’ knows what she wants and does it from her mission’s perspective.

Originally, 'bad chicks' or just 'that chick' in general, are women who are a force to be reckoned with. The resources I provide, whether it’s for personal development, getting your finances together, building your business, or quitting your job resources, it’s always a means to an end. Not the end of itself.

The reason why I wanted to quit my job was that I knew that there was a lot of things that I wanted to do not just for myself, but for my family, for my community, for creating a legacy.

I want my family and then my community to understand how to harness our God-given talents and create economic freedom for ourselves. That's what this is really all about, helping people create freedom in general, whether it's economic freedom or time freedom. You can't talk about time freedom without talking about your career.

Knowing what you want and doing it from your mission’s perspective is important.  Working a job just to keep the lights on is a waste of your life. You shouldn't have to work for a job just to make money. You're talented enough, we've all been given enough gifts, and we live in Western society, we live in America, and with the Internet in 2017, anything is possible.

Nobody should be financially struggling or do things that they hate, because there are far too many resources available. That's my personal belief, so I encourage that to bring people more into the game.

I’m saying that there are a lot of options that we don’t know about. I want to personally learn them and be at the forefront of teaching people how to do those things. I say that to say, that's why I do what I do. I harp on self-discipline not just for you all, but for myself. Every day I have to remind myself to be self-disciplined, and not to procrastinate.

That's why I harp on financial topics, whether it's saving or learning to get your income up. I harp on being business minded. Even if you do work a 9 to 5 job and you love it,  you should still be focused on creating income in addition to saving the income that you have.

That's what all this is for. It's not to make money for money's sake. It's not to quit your job just to quit. It's not to be positive just to be a positive person. It’s about being driven by your mission and wanting to get into a place where you are ‘That Chick’.

2.  'That Chick’ lives her life as a lifestyle.

This goes back to what I was talking about at the beginning in the forum where they were asking, "Who's that girl in terms of she likes to be polished and put together as a lifestyle and not just for getting dressed up?"

I'm raising the ante. This is beyond just looking good on a daily basis.

‘That Chick’ is a woman who wants to be a powerhouse as a lifestyle, who doesn’t just want to increase their personal power, or their personal income, or whatever in one area just to get to one thing. I'm looking for women who are like, "No, this is forever for as long as I live. I am trying to be a force to be reckoned with.  When I come into the room the atmosphere changes."

Whether you're married or not, you have kids or not, you have a college degree or not, you live in a big city or in a rural area, it doesn’t matter. What matters is your mindset of wanting to bring the thunder everywhere you go. Not just for yourself but for your own sake, just so that you could be fabulous, even though it's awesome to be fabulous, but more so that you can actually produce change and make things happen.

Isn't that what we all really want in life? To affect change?  

3.  ‘That Chick’ exudes and command power.

If ‘That Chick’ had a mascot, it would be Storm from X-men. Remember when Halle Berry played Storm? She was cool, but she wasn't super crazy. She was really nice when she was normal but when it came down to business, it was time for her to flex her superpower, the clouds came in, the thunder, the lightning, the works. And then the entire atmosphere changed!

The weather moved when Storm decided that the weather was going to move.

I want to create an army of women who have that kind of power. You've seen women like this. At your jobs, your church, or even anywhere, there are certain women who have that little extra ommph!

When you enter the room, you want people to be whispering about you in a good way.

You bring in the thunder!

4.  ‘That Chick’ is the queen of her own space.

A lot of us get into this place where we want something so bad, which is good. Having a strong desire is a really good thing but sometimes when we want something so bad we bring in this manic energy to it where we're like, "Oh, I’ve got to get this done, and I got to do this, and I got to do that."

A lot of that actually comes from a place of self-doubt and believing that you actually don't have what it takes in order to make this thing happen. That's why you're so pressed, so frantic, and you're so all over the place.

Have an internal confidence and an internal position of certainty that you know this is going to come to pass because YOU have the power to make it happen, it's just a matter of time.

Just take your time and allow God's grace and watch your power.  That's it. That's why I'm so big on coming from a position of grace and ease because I think we have to be careful as those chicks, or that chick, or women.

For a woman, your confidence is coming from a place of total grace, ease, certainty, and poise. You could sit back in the cut and don't have to be frantic about making this happen. Work smarter, you don't necessarily have to work so hard where you’re just grinding yourself.

"Those who stay on the grind too long end up getting ground up."

Other coaches talk about it in the sense of having a queen mentality. You think of yourself as you’re the queen of your domain, this is how we do things here.

I like 'that chick,' or a 'bad chick' mentality, or whatever you want to call it. Be a queen of your own space. Be a bad chick in your own space. That doesn't mean you have to be super frantic or super manic about what you're doing. Just practice that demeanor, that poise, and the confidence.

When you need a break, take a break and then when it's time to get back to work, get back to the work.  Just steady… ease… grace… that kind of thing.

So, tell me now, are you ‘That Chick’?

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